Well this last month has been, to be honest, difficult.
On March 29th, my dad passed away. I'm so grateful that I went up there that day and was able to tell him that I loved him and say good bye. He was such a great father and grandfather to Asher, I just wish we had more time to spend with him.
It has been a difficult road for me... but I have learned a lot about myself and how I deal with stress and sadness.
Luckily we had already moved into Gord's parents the day before so I was glad that part was done. And thankfully Gord's Brother and Sister-in-law helped us clean our town house the next day so that we didn't have to worry about going back, and we were able to spend time with family.
I have been noticing over the last few weeks however that Asher has been a bit more clingy. I was wondering if it was a touch of separation anxiety and now I'm starting to think I was right. Just after we moved to Gord's parents place, I noticed that when I walked out of the room Asher was in he would start to get upset. Sometimes he would calm back down and go back to playing but other times he would get very upset. However if he didn't notice that I had left, he didn't seem to have a problem at all.
This has been worrying me quite a bit since I only have 2 months before I go back to work and I want to make sure he is going to be OK when I leave him. To top it all off, the daycare we had lined up for months backed out on us because she took on another child and wouldn't be able to wait to take on Asher due to financial reasons.... sooo... that really piled on the stress for me!
Luckily we were able to find a great lady to care for Asher during the week while I'm at work and she is just around the corner from where our new house will be, reasonably priced (if you could ever say that about daycare), and seems pretty awesome. So all going well at least that is one thing off our plate!
Yesterday I decided to go to the gym a bit earlier then usual and use the childminding that they have there instead of leaving him with Gord when he gets home. At first he didn't want me to leave... until I gave him to the girl and handed him a rice cracker, then he was just fine. He didn't see me leave and seemed to be fine for the whole hour I was gone. However when I went back to get him he couldn't squirm away fast enough and was SUPER clingy once he had me.
I got back to the Jeep and tried to put him in his seat but he wouldn't let go of me... I held him for a few minutes while I talked to my Sister and then put him in his seat... he was fine. But on and off he becomes super clingy and doesn't want me to leave a room... he did it again tonight after dinner. From what I read there isn't much you can do other then reassure him.
During the day if he gets upset that I'm not right there with him I generally go to him give him a toy or make his toy make a sound and then leave again. That way I figure, I'm not totally ignoring him but I'm not picking him up or anything... this usually works and he goes back to playing but there is the odd time when he all out cries and gets upset and then I will pick him up because there is no other way to calm him down... I have tried...
Everything I read says that it is a phase and will pass... I just hope it doesn't take too long!!!
That's all for now folks... any advice on the Separation Anxiety is welcome!!!
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